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  • feedwordpress 18:57:40 on 2016/12/02 Permalink
    Tags: , Cliteracy, , , Female Sexuality, Huffington Post, Ian Kerner, Secret to desire, Sexual Awareness, sexual desire, Sophia Wallace,   

    I am cliterate! Are you? 

    Are you cliterate?

    “Being cliterate is understanding female sexuality, privileging female sexuality, respecting female sexuality” Ian Kerner, Sex Therapist and NYT Bestselling Author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

    Female sexual anatomy and information about pleasureable sex have been primarily neglected in the education system. Many thanks to the team at Huffington Post and Cliteracy for spreading scientifically proven information on the female pleasure center. Watch the video below by Huffington Post’s Cliterate re-educator Jenny Block and let us know what you think.

    Women are having a lot more sex, but is it pleasurable? Is it satisfying? Orgasm is not the sole proof of her satisfaction. There are various connected elements of erotic bliss that lead to a crescendo of pleasure — body awareness, relaxation, presence, and fantasy to name a few. Understanding the female anatomy is a building block to enjoying one’s own body, and pleasing someone else is one important way we can begin to….

    “As many as three quarters of women can’t orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. In fact, just eight percent of women can reliably orgasm this way, studies estimate. An ill-cliterate individual might write off such information as proof that women just aren’t as sexual as men or that their bodies aren’t hardwired for pleasure. But women who are in same-sex relationships have similar orgasm counts to men and achieve climax in the same amount of time as their hetero male counterparts. The same is true when women pleasure themselves. Women’s bodies are not the problem. The problem is that most of us don’t have a full understanding of how they work.” – Huffington Post, Cliteracy Project by Sophia Wallace.

    Clitorial Anatomy Fast Facts:

    • The clitoris is not located inside the vagina. In fact, the “vagina” only refers to the genital opening and passage
    • The clitoris has executive tissue that swells when aroused
    • The clitoral structure in entirely is actually fairly equal in side to the penis
    • The clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as a penis

    Sex Education: The Missing Chapter from The Huffington Post on Vimeo.

    Image: Huffington Post, Cliteracy Project

    The post I am cliterate! Are you? appeared first on Esther Perel.

  • feedwordpress 12:39:34 on 2016/06/17 Permalink
    Tags: , , love hurts, love’s consequences, , sexual desire   

    Making Love Is Not Love But It May Be The Beginning of Love 

    Making love requires no thought. You move as the fronds of a palm tree move in the breeze. It is all instinct. All wonder.

    After making love there is nothing like making love, slowly, idly, like walking without a destination, or swimming in a warm sea.

    Making love defies explanation or exposition, description or clarification. Making love is one of those rare human exchanges in which the more you give, the more you get back.

    When you are making love, there is a moment when time stops, when the air grows still, when you enter a state of nothingness, a state of purity and completion. That is the moment to strive for.

    Making love is a meditation, a quest for perfection. We make our own destiny, not because we can see the road ahead, but because we cannot see the road ahead. It is the road, the motion, the forward movement, that takes us to ourselves.

    If sex is a journey, orgasm is the both the purpose and journey’s end.

    What is love? Love is like being on a small boat in the middle of the sea with no compass and no one to rely on except each other.

    In The Symposium, Plato tell us that humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves. Making love is the acceptance that you are one half of a whole and you have found the other half.

    In Shakespeare’s Othello, when the irate Brabantio asks Iago: ‘What profane wretch art thou?’ Iago replies: ‘I am one, sir, that comes to tell you your daughter and the Moor are now making the beast with two backs.’

    Sex is a three act play: foreplay, play and afterplay. Love is a noun as well as a verb, a treacherous construct.

    Making Love in Love

    If the existentialists are right, that life is meaningless, and if we acknowledge that, we are better equipped to find pleasure in small things. Making love is one of those small things that grows and becomes an all-consuming, vast and precious thing.

    When strangers’ eyes meet across a crowded room and they want to fall into bed, that is not love. It is passion, instinct, sexual desire. Making love comes before love. It is the transformation of our base instincts into the gold of exquisite potential.

    Making love is easier for a woman, more pleasurable for a woman. She isn’t fated by the male psychosis to prove herself, to be a great lover, just to be a lover. She takes the man who wants her into her body and absorbs his oils and essence. A part of him enters her and becomes a part of her.

    The moment of orgasm is like the first dramatic moment of birth when you draw breath and scream out that you are alive. It is hard to imagine the moment when you fade back into the vacuum and draw your last breath.

    Making love is not love but it may be the beginning of love. Love, true love, first love, are uniquely human. Love enters us like a vague ailment. Your head spins. Your underarms tingle. Love hurts and love has consequences: marriage, babies, separation, longing, human complications.

    When you love someone, your lips are incomplete until they are oiled by a kiss. You can say ‘I love you’ a thousand ways, but you can say it better with silence and a kiss.

    In life there are few perfect moments. You cannot plan them – the very act interferes with the laws of the universe – but you must be ready to recognize them when they come.

    Inside our mind there is hidden place that contains the mind within the mind. There, you will find another version of yourself that may be your true self. We do not find that self by travelling, by searching. We find that self by sitting still, being quiet and looking inside. Ask yourself: who am I? And your true self will answer.

    Making Love Is Not Love But It May Be The Beginning of LoveIt is Katie Boyd, the character created for “Katie in Love”, who inspired these reflections on love and making love.

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    Photo show Echo and Narcissus – of course, he was only in love with himself.

    The post Making Love Is Not Love But It May Be The Beginning of Love appeared first on Romance writer Chloe Thurlow.

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