Couples Need to Fan the Flame

What is the difference between love and desire?

Love and desire relate and conflict:

Love is: When you care, worry, feel responsible for someone. You want to minimize threats, reduce the distance, and nurture them.
Desire is: an expression of freedom and autonomy. Many can feel freer with people they are less emotionally involved in. Why do women like the bad boys? You don’t have to worry about him – don’t’ feel safe with him, but it’s freeing in terms of desire.

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